If I need a secretary, you'll be the first guy I'll call. I appreciate your spirit.
Not to mention, you've got good game. I do my best to assuage the fear of dating, but it doesn't always work. Luckily, you don't have to think about it. I love the sports comparison. I haven't been in the game in a very long time. I wouldn't even know what the rules are. It's probably a good thing I am not. I don't like games. I won't ask even about your "economics" comment. Suffice it to say, I disagree. It's all about playing fair and not rolling over and playing dead. That, specifically, is what this article is all about. People who play the game don't know their value and are testing to find it.
Otherwise, there is no game. Economics is not a game. Applying this game mentality to real life is how you develop a manipulative deceptive outlook on relationships. Very well said and I very much like your comparing it to sports; because like sports, healthy dating does require much effort I love your suggestion to "date with a attitude of having fun and gaining experience". I enjoyed this hub as I do everything I have read of yours I really think you ought to think of a book maybe The good news is that just like players in sports, those who date have the opportunity to become more experienced and hopefully, wiser - even if the outcome wasn't the one they had hoped for.
I hadn't heard that one. Hopefully, I can convince some women to begin turning that scenario around, so that she can have the winning play! Thank you for visiting and commenting!!
I always remember the analogy, what does football and sex have in common? I'm so glad you enjoyed the sports analogy. I thought it was fun and hopefully, somewhat helpful for those in need of some dating "strategies. What a wonderful read and from a fresh prescpective..
I like the whole sports analogy or the sports frame of mind, but nonetheless it was a treat to read: I do so appreciate your having commented on Value 1. Sometimes I let political correctness get the better of me. However, women can now read for themselves, from a man who knows men and women , that indeed men are always focused on sex, but that women still retain the ability to engage a man's loftier sentiments, that is, if she plays the game well.
I love that you expounded upon the 1 essential point so beautifully! Speaking of thankfulness, please know that I am delighted with your kind words regarding my "careful, but natural" way, and too, your excellent points on how I might have improved my article not to mention the typos. I am not surprised in the least that women came up to you in that social setting you spoke of - even though you supposedly did next to nothing to attract attention.
A lot of the guidelines I give to women are also applicable for men, and frankly, there is something very sexy about an individual, be it woman or man, who knows how to bide their time in social situations. It gives one a certain savoir-faire, if you will.
You have posed an excellent question. My answer is that I do approve of a woman who seeks out the man.
I have done it myself, but this must be done properly. Gushing is never allowed. All of a woman's actions should create a bit of mystique, and yes, intelligence. The act of approaching a man is not a defensive strategy necessarily, although it may appear that a woman is "handing over the ball. Having given him the ball, she takes it back almost immediately. In so doing, she catches him off guard, and makes him long to get the ball back. In other words, she gives him a taste of who she is, and then might very well walk away.
After all, she knows others in the room who require or desire her attention.
Surely, he can not expect to have her full attention so easily. Let the games begin! You'll want to fix it. You write very well--light, humorous, careful, but natural and easy--and when your consistently relevant and interesting sports analogy took hold, it' was difficult to stop reading. I'm a VERY demanding reader, and your style hooked me, as it has in the past.
Your common-sense non-formulaic formula is perhaps a little detailed for most women to follow; at the same time, it's sufficiently broad in scope for the reader to select points that seem particularly workable for her, and let some of the lesser points slide. It's been so long since I "dated" that you'd think I would be quite lost in this article. What you might have stressed a bit more is that Value 1 does NOT go away. A smart woman realizes that and, as you advise, entices him with HER values until he becomes intrigued enuff to permit his carnal desires to become refined A real man comes to want a whole woman, not just the parts he doesn't have himself.
When I was a young stud, I seemed to enjoy the most success with women in gatherings parties, events, etc. My friends were all whinnying around the field, tongues hanging out, snorting fire, and figuratively, of course pole-vaulting among the ladies. After a while, one or more women would come over to me to chat, and Would you consider a woman who sought a man out under those kinds of circumstances in a Defensive or Offensive strategy?
Never Play Blindfolded Can you imagine any professional football or basketball player running around the field or court wearing blindfolds and flatly refusing to see what's going on around him? They go something like this: Rule 1 "How do I get her into bed? What strategy can I use to have her?
Useful Guidelines In the beginning stages of dating, try to keep an open mind. Do not play "defensive. However, if someone is not interested, you should have noticed an extreme change in their behaviour. Maybe initially they were approachable and keen, then after a while seem distant and unavailable. If someone is playing hard to get they will avoid hurting your feelings unnecessarily.
Someone who is uninterested will just leave you hanging. They will also probably have another time and date in mind so you two can get together. The uninterested person, if they have agreed to a date will not have a clear idea of when you can meet again in the future. The hard to get player will take a genuine interest in your life. They will remember things that you have told them and will try to bring up common interests in conversation. The uninterested person will remember very little of what you have told them and will try their best to avoid asking you anything too personal.
Quite often this type of person just needs someone to talk to or to give them advice. You might have told all your friends that you are done with playing games, and you just want to be honest with the next person you date. He said he was busy It has been believed that women rule the world of manipulation and relationship mind games. While women may be the queens, men are not far behind.
Mind games are played by men as well. In fact, because of the fact that it is least expected from them to play games, they have the upper hand. The game is over now.
I have worked over the past few years to decipher this weird code of conduct that constitute the dating games that men play and for all my girls out there, and here are the results!! Mind Games to Charm Women Men have a 3-day rule. In the case that I have described above, this is the game that all Troys play. In this mind game, they charm the woman when they meet them. They exchange numbers, sometimes even share a very passionate good night kiss. Being women, we expect that they like us, assuming that we have the upper hand.
However, the men don't call up for a date till 3 days after. This puts the woman through a feeling of insecurity in the start. Questions like "why didn't he call me? As such, after 3 days, she has pretty much given up hope of the guy ever calling. This is when the man calls up for a second date, explaining that he has been super busy. The woman feels relieved which is not really what she needs to feel , and the man has the upper hand in the relationship.
Even though many women are already aware of this one, it has a tendency to work! Earn False Sympathy Men are assumed to be commitment-phobes. This is one fact that I have known many men taking advantage of. Yes, there are chances that either of these could have happened to him, nonetheless, there are very slim chances that it has that much of an impact on him.